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5 Signs He’s Lying To You

How to know what you’re really getting from him.


After being lied to by countless feckless boyfriends, I decided to get smarter. I was sick of learning about their dishonesty way after the fact. In a relationship, it’s unfortunately quite normal for our partners to lie here and there. That doesn’t mean you should just sit back and take it!

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Though they may sound convincing, their bodies can give us clues as to whether they’re being truthful. Here’s how the subtle aspects of their body language reveal clues for us to get a clearer picture of what the truth is:

He Keeps on Moving

When people are lying, they usually touch their ears, chin, or some other parts of their bodies. They will fidget restlessly and might have their hands clasped behind their backs or make slight swaying movements, as if they are ready to bolt. These are unconscious gestures that are not caused by some outward precedent — more likely, these actions are a manifestation of an internal battle on how to get out of the “interrogation.”

He Looks Like He’s in a Sauna

If your partner was just caught lying then they he will likely start to break into sweat. Sometimes guilty liars turn red when confronted. Look for small beads of perspiration on their forehead or neck. Also, try to observe their emotional responses, either through facial expression or the eyes. Usually, a liar’s expression won’t match the expected emotion linked with the dishonest words coming out of his mouth.

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Don’t Break Eye Contact

When you think that your partner is lying to you, then this is the perfect time to maintain eye contact while he’s talking. A guilty person will either awkwardly avert his eyes when you stare straight into them, or will be so conscious of trying to convince you that they won’t break eye contact at all. Either way, it’ll seem slightly unnatural. This is a clear indication that your partner is not telling you everything.

Catch the Defensive Stance

Liars can’t seem to stay in one place for a few seconds. They start puttering around, leafing through pages from magazines or books, without really paying attention to the content. This simply means that they are thinking very hard about what to do or say next in case their alibi doesn’t work.

5 Signs He’s Lying To You

Keep Your Voice Down

Liars usually start to become defensive when asked certain questions that they don’t plan to answer truthfully. Often, the volume goes up and the tone become sarcastic, or he tries to sound offended, as he tries to evade the questions you keep on pressing on him. There are also times when your partner will “act” angry just to show that you have just insulted him by calling him a liar. If this does happen, try to look at his nose and see if it flares up or not. If it flares up then they really are angry, and if it doesn’t, then it’s likely he is just putting on an act.

If you know your partner well, then all your need is to observe if there is something different about the way they talk, move or act. These body language clues will tell you if there is something off. That said, remember that that honesty and trust are the basic foundations of a healthy romantic relationship and so you and your partner must be clear on these expectations from the start. Listen to your gut. If you sense that your partner is acting weird and that something is amiss; don’t just dismiss it as nothing. Communicate with your concerns with your partner — and if in the process you find that things are not going they way you want in your relationship, then perhaps it’s best to split up. You owe it yourself to be happy, with or without him.

Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging (InsiderDiva.com) and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 209 Comments

  1. Catherine Rogers

    I am not a cheater but to be honest I did all those things when I’m in a situation. Idk, it’s just kind an awkward when someone you love confronting you on something you didn’t do.🤷‍♀

  2. Lanora Parsons

    This article is head-on! Just what I need. Sarah really knows what she is talking about as the article is insightful. Got me thinking to make a move to stop my husband from looking for another one, and for me to stay faithful with our marriage.

    • Clara Ybarra

      Just remember it is not our fault that they are dishonest.

  3. James Craver

    I remember the time when my ex-girlfriend broke my cell phone because her instinct told her that I am cheating. In the end, I saw her making out with another guy. It seems funny cause she’s afraid of her own wrongdoing.

    • Caroline Zimmer

      Teach that lying bitch a lesson! 👊

  4. Brenda Ruiz

    Even if its white lies it still a lie, and lie can destroy everything you built together.

    • Brenda Stokes

      Yeah! All lies are equal!

  5. Rose Graves

    After you read this article and someone you loved actually cheated on you. Insert Taylor Swift song “WE ARE NEVER EVER, GETTING BACK TOGETHER” *hair flipped* hahahahahaha

  6. Florence Laseter

    What if your partner doesn’t want to have an argument so he decided to read a book instead of talking to you?

    • Mary Castillo

      Slap him with the book or tear it in front of him! 🤣 JK! Engage with him in a calm way, be straightforward and honest about your feeling. Whatever his/her reactions are, be respectful and be firm on your decisions after.

  7. Margot Emmanuel

    When you’re about to cheat just remember that God can forgive you but can’t save you from its consequences.

  8. Pamela Clary

    I’m looking forward when Hillary and Sarah makes an article about why cheater hurts someone they claim to love.

  9. Julie Craine

    This article tells us that we shall allow our intuition to guide us, good job Sarah!

  10. Nichole Skiles

    Thanks, Sarah! 💓 For giving us some tips. It’s really helpful especially when you don’t have that kind of instinct.

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