6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

How to make yourself feel like you can conquer the world in six easy steps. No, Really!


Be Grateful

It’s easy to get fixated on the things you want rather than being thankful for what you already have. This often leads you to focus on your weaknesses as a person rather than your strengths.

6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Writing down what you’re grateful for helps

One way to reorganize your thought process is to write down three things you are grateful for and why each day. These things don’t need to be groundbreaking gratitudes, but rather small victories such as the sunny sky overhead or the cup of coffee you grabbed with a friend. Remembering to focus on the positive things in your life helps you rediscover your confidence in a real way.


Try Meditation

This might seem a little too new age for some people, but true self-confidence is all about self-awareness. If you become more aware of your feelings and why you are having those specific feelings, it is easier to accept the things you cannot change and be confident to affect the things you can.

6 Easy Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Not feeling so hot? Try straightening out your mind with meditation.

One of the objectives during meditation is to observe yourself and surroundings without judgement. You can’t avoid or make something happen during meditation, nor are you trying to. Just sit quietly and observe (and let go of) your thoughts as a third party. Through a more thorough understanding of yourself, you can acknowledge both your strengths and weaknesses, without judgement. This eventually leads to inner calm and confidence — I promise!

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 179 Comments

  1. Diana Scott

    For people with low self-esteem, or a history of disappointments, men as well as women, failure is easier to accept than success. They’re used to it.

  2. Rachel Ward

    Work on the issues that are making you feel low in self-confidence. For me this is the more practical approach to increasing self-confidence.?

  3. Felicia Blake

    When you’re confident, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, and stop second-guessing your decisions.

    • Charles Adams

      I find girls with really strict fathers tens to be easy to control since they’re used to getting told what to do and deep down inside begin to like being bossed around because obviously they have low self-esteem.

  4. Kristina Ramsey

    Confident people inspire confidence in others, and gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a self-confident person finds success.

    • Mona Conner

      Right! Because confidence is contagious.

  5. I agree to this. Try learning a new skill, or perhaps do something that you are scared of, if you made it then it’ll raise your self-confidence.

  6. Know yourself by leaving your comfort zone. Not enough can be said about the power of self-awareness. ?

    • Judy Robertson

      Many people lack confidence because they feel that they lack a certain competency. But I think competency can be developed through reading and practice.

  7. Think of a fear you have overcome. When we lack self-confidence and self-belief, we become fearful that we are not good enough or worthy enough. Inorder to counteract this fear, think of the times when you were scared of doing something but did it anyway and were successful.

  8. Personally, when I was overweight and out of shape many years ago, I had the limiting belief that I did not have the willpower to get fit and I believed that I had a certain body type that prevented me from being fit and strong. I challenged those beliefs, and this opened door for me to develop confidence in my ability to get in shape.

  9. List your past successes and accomplishments. Most of us are hard on ourselves. We tend to recall our mistakes and failures more than our successes. You will be surprised how many things yo have accomplished, read it often and you are more capable than you realize.

  10. Rosemarie Gibbs

    If you want to be successful, self-belief is more important than intelligence , talent, background, or just about anything else. And people who have self-confidence and believe in themselves are healthier, happier , have better relationships and are more motivated and resilient. ?

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