How I Improved My Self-Esteem

My journey, and the six steps that changed my life.


Meditation and Affirmations Are Key

Meditation and affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their ability to rewire our brains, raise the level of feel-good hormones, and push our brains to form new clusters of “positive thought” neurons.

Meditation can give you the ability to step back from situations and see both the situation and yourself in an objective way, giving you much more perspective and helping you to react more calmly. It also enables us to meet, greet, and make friends with ourselves. I know it sounds silly, but once you start meditating you’ll see what I mean. Meditation allows us to get to know who we really are and to accept and embrace ourselves just as we are. We soon find that our doubts, insecurities or fears are really only superficial. This allows us to replace those things with a deeper place of trust, dignity and self-worth.

I like to start my daily meditation with affirmations. It has helped me to rewire my brain to be more confident and break out of negative thinking. Basically, whatever you tell yourself will become true in your own mind, which will also make it far more likely that other people will believe is, and it will manifest in your life.

How I Improved My Self-Esteem

What You Eat Influences Your Emotions

Modern science has proven that the microbiome in your gut (that’s the pounds of living bacteria in your gut that influences most functions in your body) have a huge effect on our emotions, energy, irritability, and even brain fog. Integrative doctors are now recommending a vegan diet instead of antidepressants. I know, it sounds like science-fiction — but it works!

Not sure where to start? There are lots of vegan cookbooks, but the one that made me feel great is called Eating Clean, by blogger Amie Valpone. I followed the Eating Clean detox diet for three months, combined with the following three tips, and felt like a new, much healthier and happier person at the end of it.

What do you do to boost your self-esteem?

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 160 Comments

  1. Avatar of Janet Day

    I lost a few “friends” last year. One of them shattered my confidence.

  2. Avatar of Edwina Thornhill

    Edwina Thornhill

    Sometimes, being too modest is a bad thing.

  3. Avatar of Agnes Hoots

    Agnes Hoots

    People always assume that I am confident because I always speak my mind when in reality, I just like voicing out my opinions.

  4. Avatar of Jennifer Kirkpatrick

    Jennifer Kirkpatrick

    Thank you so much for writing this article! I’ve been struggling with my self-esteem since I was little and out of all the self-help tips I’ve read online, this one had struck me the most.

  5. Avatar of Eleanor Honea

    Eleanor Honea

    A lady who wears too much makeup everyday screams that she doesn’t have self-esteem. Society has put too much pressure on our women.

  6. Avatar of Jennifer Baker

    Jennifer Baker

    They encourage pretty girls to be confident, but when a simple girl is confident but not that pretty, they bring her down. Wtf! Of course, everyone did this. But did that help you become better?

  7. Avatar of Janice Way

    Janice Way

    What is self-esteem and how do you take care of it? every time I get one, it dies within a few minutes. am I not feeding it correctly? LOL

  8. Avatar of William Dean

    William Dean

    I wanted to build up my self my self-esteem and confidence, but I don’t know what to do! How and when do I start? How can I help myself?

    • Avatar of Caroline Soloviev

      Caroline Soloviev

      Start now! Trust yourself, make something that makes you feel good! Do something unusual that empowers you !

  9. Avatar of Jamie Wurst

    Jamie Wurst

    But how can I change the way people treat me? Because that’s how I manage to fix my self-esteem issues.

  10. Avatar of Alta Johnson

    Alta Johnson

    I always doubted the compliments I received. I always thought of them as sarcasm. How can I determine the truth from a white lie?

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