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7 Steps to Prevent Infidelity

Our best common-sense tips for preventing infidelity in the workplace and elsewhere.

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Sometimes even the best relationships have hiccups. As couples go through their ups-and-downs, it’s important not to let our ‘downs’ become disastrous. Here are a few tips to smooth the ride and avoid a breakup-worthy disaster:

7 Steps to Prevent Infidelity

1. Recognize that work can be a danger zone.

  • Don’t have lunch or take coffee breaks frequently with the same person.
  • Don’t get into discussions around the water cooler with co-workers that you find attractive.
  • When you travel with a co-worker, meet in public, not in a room with a bed.
  • At the office party, pretend the coworker who’s flirting with you has gonorrhea, then talk about your happy relationship, or better yet, talk to someone else.

7 Steps to Prevent Infidelity

2. Minimize your alcohol and drug intake when you’re not with your significant other.

Skip that third beer when you’re out with the guys, or the second martini with work colleagues. Mistakes happen more frequently when you’re not thinking clearly. We all know that unintended hookups happen when alcohol is involved. Bad ideas somehow become irresistible, and in the morning you’ll have to deal with the damaging consequences.

7 Steps to Prevent Infidelity

3. Avoid emotional intimacy with attractive alternatives to your committed relationship.

Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours their heart out to you. Emotional disclosures are the first step to building an inappropriate emotional bond that could end up in an affair. Most affairs aren’t planned, and they’re often with people less physically attractive than their spouse.

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Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D. is the author of NOT "Just Friends": Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal.

    Reader Discussion: 154 Comments

    1. Avatar of Brian Keyes

      Brian Keyes

      I wish my wife would read this and stop torturing me, but mainly because it’s tearing my children apart. Especially now that she’s the one cheating. 🙁

    2. Avatar of Fred Altman

      Fred Altman

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    3. Avatar of Jackie Chavez

      Jackie Chavez

      Cheaters, be careful and stop cheating on your innocent partner. Cheaters take some inspiration from this article and stop your dirty business.

    4. Avatar of Ramon Walters

      Ramon Walters

      I wish my girlfriend would have come across this article before cheating on me.

      • Avatar of Marilyn May

        Marilyn May

        My husband needs to see this. He just can’t get enough of other girls and keeps on cheating on me.

      • Avatar of Doreen Carlson

        Doreen Carlson

        I need to share this with my best friend’s boyfriend because he is cheating on my friend and I don’t want to break her heart. I wish he magically reads this article and can control himself after.

      • Avatar of Rosemarie Gibbs

        Rosemarie Gibbs

        Nobody can stop a cheater from cheating. Not an article. Because a cheater would never accept that he is a cheater. And would never consider this tips.

    5. Avatar of Kathy Gregory

      Kathy Gregory

      Thanks for saving a bunch of relationships. I have been in a relationship with a cheater and he ruined my life. I would be so happy if this article will help save a single relationship.

      • Avatar of Judy Robertson

        Judy Robertson

        TOTALLY! This article is gonna help save many relationships. Thanks urbanette for helping people! Thank you for showing those cheaters the right way.

    6. Avatar of Cecilia Little

      Cecilia Little

      Why do people cheat on their partner?? I hate people who can’t keep their promise and cheat. Everybody I know is either cheating or getting divorced.

    7. Avatar of Gloria Castillo

      Gloria Castillo

      Thank you for the tips — many of my friends need this because they can’t stop staring at other girls even when they are committed.

    8. Avatar of Rex Bush

      Rex Bush

      I love my wife and don’t need these tips.

    9. Avatar of Juana Gross

      Juana Gross

      These are really great tips to make me concentrate on work and avoid those handsome guys in my office.

      • Avatar of Tasha Pope

        Tasha Pope

        I find it funny people these days need tips to prevent cheating on their partner.

      • Avatar of Elisa Wolfe

        Elisa Wolfe

        It’s cheating when you have to control your feeling with the help of these tips. If you love someone really you won’t be attracted to anybody around you no matter how attractive they are.

    10. Avatar of Nettie Robinson

      Nettie Robinson

      I left my husband many years ago because he cheated. There no forgiveness for cheating.

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