Men Answer Your Questions About Love

Is your man in love? Will he fall for you? Men answer: How to tell.


How do I know where this relationship is heading?

I’ve been seeing a guy for about three weeks, and I feel like it’s going to be pretty serious. After the first two dates, we’ve been seeing each other a lot. Last week, we got together twice during the week and twice on the weekend. I’d like to talk about where this is headed, but I don’t want to scare him away. I just want to make sure we’re both on the same page about where we are, whether we’re seeing other people, and where this might go. What’s he thinking?

Men Answer Your Questions About Love

He’s thinking that, three weeks into dating, he doesn’t want to have this conversation. To him, that’s a relationship birth announcement. Today, we welcome the birth of a beautiful committed couple, weighing in at eight dates, two movies, and six orgasms (five for him, one for her): It’s Bob and Cindy! Congratulations! It’s too formal, too official, too planned. And that formality serves as the fire extinguisher to the initial spark he’s been feeling. “The only thing worse than a woman who doesn’t show any interest after a few dates is a woman who shows too much,” says Anthony, 25. Terry, 32, adds: “Slow down. Please don’t tell us that you love us after three weeks.” Think of it this way. You know how you don’t like when he skips the foreplay and goes right to the sex? When you talk about the status of a relationship too early, it’s like skipping the foreplay of pursuit and going right to the private parts of commitment. If he’s seeing you four times a week, then it’s a good sign that your relationship is headed in the right direction. Just let him have some fun — and some mystery — while he’s getting there.

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Reader Discussion: 91 Comments

  1. Avatar of ariel myers

    ariel myers

    92% wow. just wow! guess all my exes are the 8% that sucks.

  2. Avatar of Janet Day

    Sorry but I think the whole “92% of men chose love” is BS.

    • Avatar of Mary Jamieson

      Mary Jamieson

      For a relationship to work, there needs to be give and take. Men can’t do all the work. LOL

  3. Avatar of Edwina Thornhill

    Edwina Thornhill

    They say that men are simple-minded and women are the complicated ones, but I find it hard to understand most guys.

  4. Avatar of Jennifer Kirkpatrick

    Jennifer Kirkpatrick

    It’s society’s fault that women aren’t as assertive as most men. We got used to just waiting for men to ask us out. I feel sorry for the guys who aren’t as brave as the others.

    • Avatar of Agnes Hoots

      Agnes Hoots

      I feel this on a spiritual level. I’m only 25 but my relatives are more concerned with my non-existent relationship than I am.

  5. Avatar of Christine Wiggin

    Christine Wiggin

    I don’t like it when people ask me if they can be friends with me because my tendency is to always say no. I feel the same about relationships. I’d rather just let it happen. But I also get that some things need to be asked first.

  6. Avatar of Mona Murrell

    Mona Murrell

    Women give mix signals. They’re very hard to read. You’ll just get a migraine trying to understand them.

    • Avatar of Hillary Williams

      Hillary Williams

      I know it’s easier said than done, but maybe try talking to her about it? Maybe she’s just waiting for you to ask but you’ll never know if you won’t ask. Asking is the best way to get an answer. I hope this helps. 🙂

  7. Avatar of Diane Roth

    Diane Roth

    I’m shocked to know that 92% of men chose falling in love.

  8. Avatar of Isabela Quagliato

    I believe men need more understanding when it comes to matters of the heart. They do not speak what they feel which usually cause miscommunication.

    • Avatar of Joan Samonte

      Joan Samonte

      They love to keep everything simple. They tend to feel that crying is for girls. That is why the suicide rate is higher among men. That is why I always try to avoid confrontational talks with my boyfriend.

  9. Avatar of Amanda Wilson

    Thanks for writing, Sarah! Men and women need to meet halfway if they want to succeed in love!

  10. Avatar of Meiga Jenk

    Men are completely different from us, women. And it’s essential that if you love your man, you need to understand him and make sure he knows you do.

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