Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

Bucket List: #6. Give Him a Sensual Massage

There’s nothing like a naked, oily rubdown to get you in the mood. Put a large towel down on the bed and have your partner lie on his stomach. Using scented massage oil, rub his back, shoulders, arms, neck, and head with your hands. When he’s nice and relaxed, surprise him by sliding your naked upper body up his back from his waist to his shoulders. Gently lick and nibble on his earlobes as you lie on his back and continue to rub his arms. There’s a good chance the massage portion of the evening won’t last much longer.

Bucket List: #7. Talk Dirty

Whispering dirty little nothings in your partner’s ear during foreplay is guaranteed to up the ante. Tell him you’ve been thinking about ripping his clothes off all day and that you can’t possibly wait one more minute to feel him inside you. As things heat up, speak a little louder and get a little dirtier. You can also ask about your partner’s fantasies and encourage him to return the aural favor.

Bucket List: #8. Read Erotica

The recent surge in popularity of books like Fifty Shades of Grey has brought erotica to the mainstream. But instead of cowering under the blankets with a flashlight to read it, why not read passages out loud to your partner? It might feel awkward at first, but I bet you won’t even make it through the first sexy scene before you’re creating your very own.

Bucket List: #9. Use Sex Toys

Take a naughty little trip to your local couple-friendly adult store together and pick out some fun props. Don’t be embarrassed—the clerks have seen it all and won’t judge you. They can even answer any questions you might have about various products.

Have fun tying each other up with some fuzzy handcuffs or try warming lube, which will heat up your genitals and heighten sensation. Another great option is to pick out a dildo (penis-shaped sex toy) or vibrator (vibrating sex toy that can be shaped like a penis or something else) to use together—they come in all shapes and sizes for the most demure to the wildest girl. Men can also enjoy the vibrating sensation of a toy on their penis.

Bucket List: #10. Watch a Dirty Movie

Porn used to be the exclusive domain of men, but there are plenty of couple-friendly options to choose from these days. Adam & Eve and Digital Playground offer a range of high-quality productions with sexy storylines that are more enticing to women than the traditional male-oriented fare.

For example, Pirates and Pirates II: Stagnetti’s Revenge are modeled on the Pirates of the Caribbean movie franchise and have received positive reviews from women worldwide. You can find these and other movies for purchase online or at your local adult store. Or check out websites like ForTheGirls.com and ErikaLust.com for an extensive range of female- and couple-friendly films.