Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

20 creative things to do every month to spice up your sex life.


Bucket List: #16. Try New Positions

Make a pact that you’re only allowed to have sex in the same position once a week. Once you’ve gone through the standards, you’ll have to get creative. You don’t have to attempt the Lotus position while hanging from a chandelier; if it’s too difficult, it can just end up being uncomfortable rather than sexy. Instead, try some interesting twists on the classics. For example, if you’re on top, twist ninety degrees to the right so your bodies form a cross, which will cause more friction for both of you.

Bucket List: #17. Blindfold Him

Cover his eyes with a blindfold or scarf and tie it gently behind his head—blocking out his vision will heighten all his other senses. Take your time kissing and caressing his entire body. If he’s not too ticklish, you can also use a feather or fur to stroke the sensitive parts of his body. Not knowing what you’re going to do next will drive him crazy.

Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

Bucket List: #18. Make Up Kinky Rules

One of my friends—who shall remain nameless—had a deal with her boyfriend that he’d get back-door action on public holidays. Let me tell you, that man looked forward to Thanksgiving more than anyone I’ve ever known. But by the time New Year’s rolled around, she was ready for a break! Make up some fun rules—like Birthday Blow Jobs or October Oral—and you’ll have something exciting to look forward to.

Bucket List: #19. Make a Sexy List

Sit down together with a glass of wine, a pen, and paper. Make a list of every sex act you’ve ever heard of—from the most vanilla to the raunchiest. When you’re done, go through the list and take turns saying whether each act is a ‘yes,’ a ‘maybe,’ or a ‘no’ in your books. You might find there are certain things you’re both curious about but have never tried. If so, cancel dinner on Saturday night because you have plans!

Your One-A-Month Sex Bucket List

Bucket List: #20. Pleasure Yourself

Masturbation is often viewed as a personal, almost sneaky act—but why not share it with your partner? You can masturbate each other, but you might also find that your partner gets turned on by watching you pleasure yourself and vice versa. Satisfy your voyeuristic side by stimulating yourselves simultaneously—you’ll see how exciting your sex life can be without even laying a finger on each other.

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Sabrina is the author of 'A Fantastic Sex Life… And How to Get It!' Her work has been published in numerous print magazines and websites, including Women’s Fitness, Men’s Fitness, Men’s Health,, Good Health, Australian Women’s Weekly, body+soul, Runner’s World, Kidspot, ninemsn Health & Wellbeing, FHM (monthly “Ask Sabrina” column), MAXIM, Ralph, Eat Fit and ZOO Weekly.

Reader Discussion: 152 Comments

  1. Avatar of Christiaan


    I love the idea off a sex bucket list, think it can make sex more interesting and exciting. Must admit that some of the things we have done but have never engaged in a threesome and it is something that we both fantasize about and talk about, unfortunately here in South Africa people are still very conservative when it comes to sex.

  2. Avatar of paco


    How sad is this list? My wife and I did most of these within the first year of dating. If this list is something you need to spice up your sex life, you are really missing out on how good sex can be with each other.

  3. Avatar of Ruby Collins

    Ruby Collins

    My husband and I don’t have that time to have sexual intercourse. It’s sad, but I do miss him. Whenever I’m in the mood, he’s not. I think I need this to spice up our love time. I hope it works.

  4. Avatar of David Ramirez

    David Ramirez

    I will try these! Damn, these are interesting. I like the playing of food. I will try putting ice cream on her body and slowly lick it. Isn’t that nice?

  5. Avatar of Mildred Davis

    Mildred Davis

    Cross things off your sexual bucket list before you start having back and knee problems.

  6. Avatar of Jane Reed

    Jane Reed

    Sex on a balcony on Bourbon Street is on my sexual bucket list. Also sex in the cab like in Taxicab Confessions. I always wanted to do that.

  7. Avatar of Elizabeth Coleman

    Elizabeth Coleman

    I just want everyone to know that one of my biggest sexual fantasies include sharing a hot Krispy Kreme doughnut with someone and I can finally check that off of my bucket list.

  8. Avatar of Cheryl Reeves

    Cheryl Reeves

    Make a sexual bucket list. I suggest keeping as many of these as you can. I’ve checked off quite a few including watching each other masturbate. You will notice your partner look at you differently as you do it.

    • Avatar of Emanuel Terry

      Emanuel Terry

      I don’t think I can masturbate in front of my wife. It’s nasty. It should be done when you are alone.

  9. Avatar of Diane Cox

    Diane Cox

    Thank you Urbanette for posting this bucketlist! You’ve given me some ideas to spruce up our sexual time. I’m very much happy!

  10. Avatar of Ana Drake

    Ana Drake

    What’s on your sexual bucket list? I feel lucky to have been able to live such an open lifestyle full of experiences the past 12 years. What would be your ultimate experience? Don’t be shy.

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