An Educated Comparison of the Top Dating Sites

A down-and-dirty exposé of the most famous dating sites.


So, let’s recap:

  • More urban women in their mid 20’s to early 30’s should take a look at, which showers you with hundreds, even thousands of cute guys. It’s raining men –hallelujah! 
  • Better for long, committed relationships, analyzes more thoroughly than when you’re trying to decipher an ex boyfriend’s text message. This will probably lead to a great match – but you gotta be patient!
  • OkCupid is also good for younger women, as well as those of you who aren’t exactly sure what you want out of a relationship. Whether it is a long-term let’s-watch-a-movie-and-cuddle-on-the-couch thing or the casual let’s-get-a-drink-and-see-where-this-night-goes thing, you’re sure to find a large variety here. Definitely worth being on, OkCupid is the most advanced site we found – and to top it off, it’s free!
  • If you’re a conservative woman who wants to get married RIGHT NOW, eHarmony is your bet for finding a man who shares your dreams of the perfect white picket fence.

An Educated Comparison of the Top Dating Sites

Scam warning:

Although I didn’t experience this issue (probably because I’m female), this account from a writer at Mashable, is shocking:

“There are quite a large number of fake profiles throughout all of Zoosk. Considering it’s really easy to create one, anyone (and I mean anyone) can create a sham profile. And in that way, the online dating service is really easy to spam people with shady and phony users who advertise for free sex if you follow a link to another website or dating app.

It’s easy to lure someone with an attractive profile and then hit them up with spam for another service. It’s tough to scroll through numerous fake accounts to get to the real ones. Within one minute of creating a new profile, I was messaged eight times from people who seemed not to be real. Most of them simply viewed my new profile, but some wanted to meet or sent a generic message to elicit a response. It’s a red flag whenever you get that many messages from randoms after just signing up.

You may run into another problem with counterfeit or inactive users. However, just because you choose to ignore fake profiles, it doesn’t mean fake profiles choose to ignore you. The longer you’re active, the longer you’ll be susceptible to unwanted messages and sham views, winks, “wants to meet,” and requests to chat notifications you’ll see on an hourly basis.

Out of the 11 messages and notifications I received during my review period, it was difficult to tell which ones were real and which ones were not genuine. There are other dating sites like OkCupid and Tinder that are really good about scrubbing their platform free of false accounts and spam, but it was quite the undertaking to figure out [on Zoosk].”

A few important tips:

Whichever site you choose, make sure that you get as much as you can out of it in under three days (the federal government forces dating sites to give a refund within three days of purchase), because if you don’t think it’s worth your money, these sites have a strict “no refund” policy once they’ve gotten their hands on your money, and usually won’t budge.

Keep your real name and address private until you know that the guy’s not stalker-material. Correspond via a new, private email you only use for dating sites (you can always get his number, but be careful about giving out yours) and meet in public. He can pick you up on the third date.

Oh, and lest you show up at the restaurant and the man you ordered was clearly falsely advertised (hello, beer gut??), remember that drinks are always a better first date option. If all else fails, you can always excuse yourself and sneak out the back door… after all, online dating is anonymous…


Want more? Check out my fun and adventurous guide to speed dating or learn why you can’t find love.

What online dating experiences have you had?

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Sarah enlightens us on a daily basis with the newest trends as (and often before) they transpire. She is the consummate globe trotter. Having traveled to over 70 countries, she earns her living writing, blogging ( and modeling while on the road. In her spare time she gets manicures, suntans on yachts in Greece, shops for even more shoes, and lives in the limelight. She loves photography, elephants, sailboats, bangles and ballet flats.

Reader Discussion: 123 Comments

  1. Avatar of John

    Thanks for article, yes true sometimes is’s really hard to choose dating site

  2. Avatar of Azad Chaiwala

    Awesome! Thank you for in-depth and honest reviews. All these dating sites are awesome if you want quick hook-ups and short-term relationships. You’ll definitely get your next date through any of these sites but there are people who are interested in long-term relationships and for that, I’d suggest, one of its kind, marriage only match-making site.

    Azad Chaiwala – Founder of

  3. Avatar of Laronda Walker

    Laronda Walker

    I still root for destiny. You don’t need this stupid dating sites. all you have to do is wait for the right person to come.

  4. Avatar of Linda Dent

    Linda Dent

    eHarmony is a great dating site! Don’t underestimate that site because you can at least trust the people you talk there because they are very religious.

  5. Avatar of Florence Frederick

    Florence Frederick

    If you’re going to ask someone out, make sure you have enough money. Lol!!! ?

    • Avatar of Wilma Moore

      Wilma Moore

      Funny thing is that I met someone through OkCupid. He said that he has a stable job, and he has a profession. We talked for like 3 weeks because he asked me out. Thank God I was ready for that because I am the one who pays for our food. Take note, it is a fine dining restaurant which cost me 500 bucks. He even borrowed some cash from me for his cab back to his place. What a jerk.

  6. Avatar of Candis Melton

    Candis Melton

    The online dating site is not enough. you have to work hard to find someone you love. I’m not just telling to work your ass off to earn money, but to be the better person.

  7. Avatar of Monique Malick

    Monique Malick

    Go to New York city, and party! You can meet different people there. Native New Yorker, and tourists. Clubbing is great!

  8. Avatar of RUTH


    Online dating sucks!!!!! They are a bunch of people lying!!!! I really hate them. Don’t use dating sites, because you will end up with a lying partner.

  9. Avatar of Eliza Radecki

    Eliza Radecki

    These are good dating sites. I try these, except for the eHarmony, never heard of that. OkCupid is the least because some people there are too young, like 16? Overall, these are great sites. You must try them

    • Avatar of Ida Reeves

      Ida Reeves

      Uhm, just one question. Did you find what you are looking for on these sites? ?

  10. Avatar of Caroline Schack

    Haha! I will share this article with my friend. She badly needs working dating sites. Tinder isn’t working anymore for her.

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