Project Romance: 5 Secrets to Having It All

These 5 love-saving tips will light up your romance and help you find more balance.


Plan Ahead

Many of your most important to-do items get done regularly and naturally. Your next salon visit is booked on your calendar a month in advance. Your bills are paid through automatic bill pay. Your grocery list is posted on your refrigerator for daily updating. Why not approach quality time with your spouse in the same way? Take a few minutes with your hubby to commit to some monthly dates. Establish a comfortable budget, and alternate who plans the date. Planning ahead like this is the only way to snag a romantic weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast, or concert tickets to see your favorite musician.

Project Romance: 5 Secrets to Having It All

Make Time for Small Luxuries

Date nights don’t have to be huge events. Plan a relaxing night at home instead. Text your spouse throughout the day to tell them you love and miss them, and that you’re excited for date night. Buy a bouquet of lavender for your nightstand or order a fresh flower arrangement for the dining room table. Put on some jazz, spread a blanket on your bedroom floor, and have a wine, chocolate and cheese picnic after the kids are in bed. It might seem goofy, but the change of routine will spark some conversation and refresh your flagging spirits for the rest of the week.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 83 Comments

  1. Carmen Griffin

    This is what I need to read! I’m experiencing emotional stress at the moment *sigh*

  2. Della Martin

    I’d like to add: develop small and consistent habits with your partner 😉

    • Elsa Gomez

      yeah, like doing chores together or cooking dinner at home. it creates bonding time and at the same time having fun.

  3. Time management is an important element — it’s important to make time for small luxuries.

  4. Elizabeth Gonzalez

    Very helpful! Sometimes it’s hard to maintain connection amid intense schedules!

  5. Esther Devine

    Totally. I find it very hard to hard to handle multiple desires — career success and relationships!

  6. Brittany West

    When I’m with my special someone, I make sure work doesn’t distract my attention.

  7. Deanna Woods

    Thanks for the tips. I most of the time struggle juggling career, ambition and relationship…

  8. Genie Mackenzie

    My boyfriend and I make it a habit to schedule a date night every Thursday (and it CAN’T BE RESCHEDULED). This way, we find quality time together to look forward to…

  9. It’s very important to create regular time to spend together.

  10. My parent’s and his are very supportive of what we are doing. They know that we also need some time alone together so they are supportive whenever we let our children sleep with them.

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