Project Romance: 5 Secrets to Having It All

These 5 love-saving tips will light up your romance and help you find more balance.


Give Back to Others

Studies show that people who volunteer to help others are healthier and less stressed. Combine these benefits with quality couple time by planning a date to volunteer together. Shovel an elderly neighbor’s sidewalk. Walk dogs at a local animal shelter. Pass out flowers to strangers on a busy street corner. The cheer you share with others will inspire you and may even ignite a new admiration for your spouse.

Project Romance: 5 Secrets to Having It All

Sweat Together

According to the Mayo Clinic, exercise boosts energy and improves mood. Want a little extra motivation to get moving? Nab your spouse as your new biking buddy. You will both be invested in the results, plus conquering a new health goal will strengthen your bond and provide something concrete to brag about your spouse at his next work party.

Project Romance: 5 Secrets to Having It All

Turn off Work

Turn off your work, literally. Establish a specific space and business hours for yourself with a clear start and end. After 6pm, for example, shutdown your computer and leave your home office regardless of the email barrage filling your inbox. Shut the door and start the home part of your day. Set your phone to notify you of new messages only from your personal accounts. After the kids are in bed, shut down all electronic devices and just talk with your spouse for 30 minutes. Catch up on work news. Compare calendars and get on the same page about your upcoming obligations. Dream about your next vacation. Read the newspaper together. This daily, focused time together doesn’t take much work and it will have huge payoffs in the long run.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 83 Comments

  1. Avatar of Carmen Griffin

    Carmen Griffin

    This is what I need to read! I’m experiencing emotional stress at the moment *sigh*

  2. Avatar of Della Martin

    Della Martin

    I’d like to add: develop small and consistent habits with your partner 😉

    • Avatar of Elsa Gomez

      Elsa Gomez

      yeah, like doing chores together or cooking dinner at home. it creates bonding time and at the same time having fun.

  3. Avatar of Koda Hansen

    Time management is an important element — it’s important to make time for small luxuries.

  4. Avatar of Elizabeth Gonzalez

    Elizabeth Gonzalez

    Very helpful! Sometimes it’s hard to maintain connection amid intense schedules!

  5. Avatar of Esther Devine

    Esther Devine

    Totally. I find it very hard to hard to handle multiple desires — career success and relationships!

  6. Avatar of Brittany West

    Brittany West

    When I’m with my special someone, I make sure work doesn’t distract my attention.

  7. Avatar of Deanna Woods

    Deanna Woods

    Thanks for the tips. I most of the time struggle juggling career, ambition and relationship…

  8. Avatar of Genie Mackenzie

    Genie Mackenzie

    My boyfriend and I make it a habit to schedule a date night every Thursday (and it CAN’T BE RESCHEDULED). This way, we find quality time together to look forward to…

  9. Avatar of Isabela Quagliato

    It’s very important to create regular time to spend together.

  10. Avatar of Roe Elizabeth Merry

    My parent’s and his are very supportive of what we are doing. They know that we also need some time alone together so they are supportive whenever we let our children sleep with them.

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