6 Ways to Find Your Soulmate

This isn’t your typical “do this and that” article. These tips actually work.


4. Don’t be afraid to make the first move

It’s true that there will be some guys who will be turned off by this, or who will decline because they like the chase more than the catch, but let’s be real: you’re a smart, confident and desirable woman, and you probably don’t want to end up with those guys anyway!

6 Ways to Find Your Soulmate

I have often made the first move in my own dating life, and trust me, there have been way more no’s than yes’s. In fact, sometimes it’s been kind of a disaster, but guess what? I’ve lived to tell the tale. Yes, it hurts, and yes, it can be a little awkward, but I’ve never regretted doing it. Seriously!

The momentary discomfort has always given way to relief that I know where he stands and a certain amount of pride that I did it. Plus, there’s an equal chance that he’ll appreciate you taking the heat off of him and respect you more for knowing what you want and going after it.

Regardless of what men might want you to think, most of them are tender, flawed, uncertain squishy teddy bears on the inside, and just as prone to heartache as you are. So don’t always expect them to put it out there when you are just as capable of doing so.

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Raised in California and North Carolina, Jen is both an actress and a writer. She loves writing fiction, especially for young adults, and exercising her non-fiction muscles through Urbanette and her chocolate blog: Chocofiles. Jen also loves adventures, yoga, live music and spontaneous dance parties.

Reader Discussion: 88 Comments

  1. Mary Beyer

    Be prepared to compromise!!! #soulmate

  2. Thank you so much! Your article put so many things in perspective for me.

  3. Interesting article! It’s worth reading. Simple but enjoyable.

  4. Della Martin

    More often than not, we overlook the signals of incompatibility and settle for less. These are all helpful, Jennifer!

  5. Zoraida Martin

    Soulmate?! I think it’s a dopey concept…

    • To me, soulmates means someone who is a better match for you than you could have ever imagined. I found my soulmate in my husband. I don’t take it to mean anything religious…

    • Jannie Zoot

      I don’t think so, there’s definitely something that can exist between two people, something so strong and disruptive we can’t really understand

  6. Rosalia Russell

    I wonder — what’s the difference between soulmate and life partner?! ?

    • car

      I once met someone, we had the same thoughts at the same time, we were really somehow soulmate… but then it ended, do we have many soulmates or what?

  7. Lucy

    I want to find my soulmate, someone who deserves the very best from me (and vice versa)

  8. Carmen Griffin

    I’ve always believed that my soulmate is someone who meets my unconscious list of traits I’m looking for in a partner…

  9. Karen Abeyta

    Thanks for the advice! Going out now to find my soulmate LOL ? ?

  10. Andrea Jones

    Go out alone and be a magnet ???✡️

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