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10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Ten things every woman needs to help make her 30s the best decade yet.


Essential #6: An Epic Birthday Bash

No one can control the changing digits of age, and 21 is certainly not the pinnacle of womanhood. Life’s too short to reproach every birthday nearing 29. So before decade three, make sure to turn at least one birthday into an all-out extravaganza that celebrates you. For my 30th, I was at a women’s shelter in Uganda, and I followed that up by spending a week in St. Barths with my best friends. After all, 30 was my most pivotal birthday!

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #7: Perspective

There are a two major things you can do that will be eye-opening and guaranteed to give you perspective. One is to travel to an impoverished area of the world, and see how other human beings are living on this planet we all share. The other is to watch videos of factory farms and go vegan, even if you start with only for one week a month. Both will open your heart and mind to the realities of the world and the part we all play in it.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #8: Strength of Character

Often it’s the deepest pain which empowers you to grow into your highest self. Strength can emerge from weakness. A life challenge or crisis, from a breakup to a dying loved one, can actually unleash a “fiery will” that creates a disciplined and spirited strong sense of self. Authentic character is revealed during survival mode, and through pain you learn to forge ahead using effort and willpower. Our 20s are a time of deep mining to find who we are, and it’s in the upcoming decade you get to vibrantly be your true self.

Essential #9: A Notebook Full of Your Ideas & Adventures

Every woman’s soul burns with a passion, whether it’s to achieve success in her career or simply live with love. Document life lessons, ideas and dreams in a notebook and inspire yourself with your own written words. Anywhere you go, just inside your tote, lies a notebook to serve as your accessory for adventure and a creative partner that churns the imagination.

10 Things Every Girl Should Have Before Turning 30

Essential #10: A “Quality Over Quantity” Approach

From friendships to fashion, a true sign of maturity is when you embrace the “quality over quantity” rule in more areas of your life. When it comes to fashion, try to minimize your accessories and make a single fierce statement with a watch that will carry you through your next decade.

As for friendships, cutting loose friends who are takers, who don’t have your back, or who don’t have integrity is an important step. Surrounding yourself with friends that have good values and are true-blue is one of the single most important things you can do to ensure your 30’s are the best decade yet.

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A writer, artist, and designer since she was young enough to put pencil to paper, Hilary taught herself code and created Urbanette when she was a teenager. Currently, she lives in Monte Carlo, but spent the past decade living in NYC, still considers herself a New Yorker, and visits regularly. She's always traveling, looking for hot new topics, destinations, and life hacks to bring to Urbanette readers.

Reader Discussion: 80 Comments

  1. Avatar of Meghan Medina

    Meghan Medina

    I like this list because it’s all about how my achievements are in life as soon as I turn 30. It’s a reminder that when you’re in that stage of life, it’s no longer fun and games. It’s all about maturity and being able to deal with life in a better manner compared to how it was when we were in our 20’s. It’s a huge milestone in our lives.

  2. Avatar of Kelly Obsborne

    Kelly Obsborne

    It really makes sense to be able to have done this before you’re 30. But I won’t judge people who haven’t achieved all of this even when they’re past 30. We all achieve things in due time and we can’t rush success!

  3. Avatar of Maggie Lawrence

    Maggie Lawrence

    I’m way past my 30’s so I guess I need to work harder to in order to tick off a lot of these things.

  4. Avatar of Terri Ferguson

    Terri Ferguson

    I couldn’t agree more with what’s written. But then I think a lot of people should be able to read this before they’re 30. Otherwise, people would feel like they haven’t achieved much because it can be a little too late to be able to do all of this in just a span of years. I actually feel like this article is meant for people who are in their 18+ because they should be aware that once they are in their journey to their 20’s, life is a ticking bomb already. For this article to generalize that being in your 30’s is a smooth awesome journey is a fairy tale.

  5. Avatar of Josephine Murphy

    Josephine Murphy

    Can I just skip being 30 and be senile already? Just kidding.?

  6. Avatar of Verna Clarke

    Verna Clarke

    I’d rather have a travel bucket list than this. People tend to flourish in different areas of their life, some late, others early. So I think you can’t always give a bracket in your life wherein you want to achieve stuff. Because you’ll end up disappointed and envious of other people.

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    Leticia Bass

    I stopped caring for my birthdays as soon as I reached my teenage years. What more my 30’s? The next time I wanna celebrate or have a birthday bash is when I’m in my 60’s or 70’s because I’m just glad that I’m still alive and kicking. My 30’s isn’t something I’d feel like celebrating. I don’t even see the significance of celebrating at such a time wherein I’m being told to save up for my old ass days. Everybody is telling you what to do when yu’re in your 30’s and you just want to slap them across their faces and tell them to f*** off.

    • Avatar of Hannah Rose

      Hannah Rose

      You have a great point and I think I’ll throw my birthday millenial bash when I’m 60 and I’m going to be a hip grandma.

  8. Avatar of Margie Ross

    Margie Ross

    I think I’ll fail in #1. I haven’t found my bestest best friend. I have friends whom I enjoy spending time with, but I must admit that I don’t feel like they’re people who have my back 100%.

  9. Avatar of Rachael Patrick

    Rachael Patrick

    I’ve accomplished a lot here and I’m proud of myself. I guess you just have to make the best possible choices in life as early as possible so it’s easier in the future.

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    Our 20’s really is a learning stage but despite being labeled as “learning” stage, it’s where we make the most mistakes that affect our lives when we’re in our 30’s. A good example of this is when we failed to be responsible financially and we end up not having any savings at all or we invested our hard earned money in investments that didn’t grow at all. Who would have thought that being in your 30’s feels like you’re trying to be young but mature at the same time?! Or trying to get rid of wrinkles but trying so hard not to spend on skin care because you have to be financially responsible?!? I’m seriously freaking out.

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